A Boyfriend? :) (No Not an April Fools Joke!)


So, remember last time, I wrote, I was explaining I was going to give up? Well, I guess someone had other plans, because I met a guy 😉 This all actually happened a day after my last update.

His name is Andrew. Which is ironic because when I would pray about God giving me a good man, I would constantly hear Andrew. I would think the reason why I was hearing that was because John’s brother is named Andrew, and when I pray, I usually think of Carolyn. But… I guess this is why I kept hearing Andrew. At least, I hope.

Anyway, he is 28, and has a good job. He works as a machinist. He is really good with my kids. His birthday is my mom’s birthday, August 12th. And He treats me really good. 

So, here is the story:
On March 7th, 2019, I started talking to guy on OKCupid (or as we joke and call it, OK Stupid) and after nearly two days of hoping the app sent the other person our message, we decided to talk on Discord because, what gamer doesn't have discord ;)
 
We talked essentially nonstop for several hours over the next few days at which point, I informed him that I was going to be AFKish because of the Hemophilia B Symposium in Florida and scored his digits  at which point, we talked pretty much nonstop until I returned home. 

He would respond with silly things like "Potassium" for "k" and I would get his jokes and sense of humor and laugh. After much talking and laughter, on March 22, we shared our first date. 

We went to Max & Irma’s and then to see a movie. We saw Captain Marvel. Everything went wonderfully, despite how incredibly nervous I was, and I'll admit, I was a tad nervous to have him meet my kids, but everything else has worked out and is pretty much history. 

I love this adorable, handsome, nerdy, patient guy who just gets me. He can look at me, and just make me laugh. I'm happier than I have ever been, and I'm super-duper happy that I took another shot at OKC before giving up entirely, after having been single for 2 years. 

It was worth it, this taking a chance thing. And I'm honestly looking forward to many more months (and years hopefully) with this guy. Because he makes me that happy.
I mean, what other guy is going to sit, and watch “girly shows” over ice cream with me or wipe my tears when I cry.

As for being an SMBC, the option is still there. I feel it will always be there, but Andrew and I discussed kids, and we discussed I don’t want more than 4 kids, and it wasn’t responsible to have children this early in the relationship, and that I’d like to make it to a year and surpass living together and such before that happens.

We’re talking tentatively for August for him moving in, and so we shall see where life goes, but I DO still want 1 or 2 more kids. And I want it before I am 35.

So… goals
-         Graduate college with my Bachelor of Science in Information Technology with emphasis in security and forensics
-         Graduate from Lakeland with my IT Professional Cert
-         Graduate from Nextgen IT with my Full Stack Network Engineer Cert
-         Get my license!
-         Go back to work for Apple (I am currently on leave because I am focusing on the court, kids health, and all that nonsense)

But, I love this man right here, and he is worth it.






    


Update: March 6 2019





My update has some plusses and minuses. 

Right now, I am on hold from being a SMBC until life settles down. Life seems to be complicated right now. Having a baby will only add to that complication, I feel.

My daughter who is my 9-year-old with major special needs has had some severe behaviors. Police involved. Court. CPS involved with protective supervision.

God is showing me its not the right time. 

Also, I fought with insurance for 3 months (I have 3 insurances my primary covers fertility, the others cover labs ect.) and finally got them to approve my Microarray SNP on March 1st (genetic test that looks at all my genetics/dna to see if I have any deletions/duplications ect.and if I carry the 22Q Deletion Syndrome) 
I should get the results in 2 weeks.
 
Jan 8th 2019, I started Prenatals. I am on Prenate Mini, so that when the time is correct, my body is on optimal prenatals. I am hoping that things settle soon. 

I have tried the whole "dating" thing, but everyone ghosts me. So, I am giving up there.
If I meet someone, I'll tell them my plans if they stick around. Selfish? sure. But I just don't want to keep waiting and telling someone after the fact. Especially if they wont stick around. 

In the meantime, my REI wants me to schedule another appt with him. 

I will do that once I get the results back, and probably in April/May/June

We go to Orlando next week and will be gone the 13-20th for the Hemophilia B Symposium, which the Coalition for Hemophilia B is putting on, and has sponsored my family to be able to attend.  I am excited to meet other mothers, and advocate for my son. I am also excited to learn more about Hemophilia B.

My plan is to get results from test, schedule appt with REI, go over plan, and proceed hopefully with IUD removal, HSG and then donor sperm. 

I have to schedule their counseling appt, but before I do, I want life to settle down first.
I'd also like to accomplish getting my license first. Will need to drive, for baby(ies) and I take the bus right now, but that’s a hassle with 2 (My 9 and 2 year old) 

God is telling me July. I keep hearing July. So, we shall see. My best friend is 10 weeks pregnant though!!!! We have babies a month apart (her son and mine were born June 2017 and July 2017) and she wants me and her to have kids close in age again haha.

Follow Up Appt with RGI



I came last month to get my lab work to look at hormones.

Today was follow up for lab work and a plan.

My labs look wonderful.

AMH is down and in normal range 2.2
Thyroid is good.. Vit D is good.
I am going to request the results for my records.

But basically the plan at this point
- Wait for 22Q results to see if I am a carrier or not. (my daughter has 22Q deletion aka DiGeorges)
If I am a carrier we will proceed with pre-implantation genetic diagnosis.

If not, the plan is remove my IUD and then get an HSG (special test to check if uterus is open) and then go from there.

I've got to go through a psych eval and be Cleared first for that, and they gave me her card.

They're doing the infectious disease panel today and I gotta call the counselor. I got given my prenatals today and a brochure for sperm banks. Super excited!!!!

Here are some photos!